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The Search for Average-ness

Tell me, do you know why society is so obsessed with greatness and perfection? Well, I have some clues and let me tell you, it's a wild ride.

Apparently, if you still need to get the memo, society is convinced that being great and perfect is the key to success, fame, and fortune! And when I say "society," I am referring to the shared values, beliefs, and norms that shape the way individuals think, behave, and interact with one another. It includes the expectations and pressures influencing how someone views success, beauty, happiness, and what is considered 'normal.'

For starters, we have the media and advertising in this whole mess. They've been feeding us images and ideals of "flawless-ness" for years, and it's no wonder many are scrambling to look like models and celebrities. What about social media, specifically? Well, it sure is where everyone is trying to present their best version, whether fake or not, which leads to a never-ending cycle of comparison and inadequacy.

"AS CHEESY AS THIS SOUNDS, it's probably true."

It's like society has convinced us that if we're just beautiful enough, thin enough, rich enough, we'll finally be happy. But let me tell you — it's hard to find true happiness if you're always chasing perfection. AS CHEESY AS THIS SOUNDS, it's probably true.

Alright folks, it's time to face the music and talk about the elephant in the room. Big chances are that, in fact, you are average. [SHOCK] And you know what? That's okay! Let's be real. Most of us will never be the next Einstein or Marie Curie. And that's FINE! We can still live a fulfilling and meaningful life, even if we're not the top dog — and I can’t believe I use that expression...

Hear me out; being average allows us to have realistic expectations for ourselves and our abilities. It means we can focus on personal growth and self-improvement instead of constantly comparing ourselves to others and feeling deficient. And let's remember that being average means that we have the opportunity to surprise ourselves and others with our hidden talents and abilities. Hey, maybe you are an outstanding listener — that is rarer than most think!

"...being average doesn't mean blending into the background."

Now, I know some of you may be considering, "But wait, if I'm average, how will I ever stand out?" Well, let me tell you, being average doesn't mean blending into the background. It means being unique and authentic in your own way. So, go ahead and embrace your averageness. Be proud of who you are! And if you are not, work towards making yourself honored on your own terms.

My point is — it's not the end of the world! What does "perfection" even mean?

To my knowledge, no specific philosopher talks about being average as a central concept. However, this concept is relevant from various philosophical perspectives.

For example, the Stoic philosopher Epictetus believed that individuals should focus on what they can control and accept what they cannot control — acknowledging our limitations and abilities while focusing on developing our virtues and capabilities.

Or the existentialist philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre, who also wrote about the importance of embracing one's freedom and responsibility, and the idea of authenticity — being true to ourselves and our own values.

"I confess that a little bit rich, a little bit famous, wouldn't hurt. So, if you like the hustle, I respect you!"

And to be clear, I am not in search of 'hypocrisy-ness' — that is not the title, after all — but who doesn't like the concept of being rich and/or famous? I confess that a little bit rich, a little bit famous wouldn't hurt. So, if you like the hustle, I respect you! Just try not to get caught up in the pressures and expectations that come with it — that alone should keep you busy enough.

But, if you are like me, and accept the average-ness as not a bad thing, then let's together stop stressing about being the best-expected version of yourselves and focus on being our *literal* selves - whatever that might mean.

Now, enough conceptualizing. Let's raise a glass to the glorious state of average-ness and all the opportunities and freedom it brings. Cheers!


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